I really, whole heartedly believe our heart’s motive has so much to do with God’s ability to use us and work through us. We can say, “I love so and so!” but if we have been hurt by so and so, and it has not been dealt with or forgiven, we will hold back everything God wants us to do for them or how we treat them. And in the end we are hindering what God wants to do through us for that person.
We need to be just wrecked by God’s unconditional love for us and for all people! If we allow Him to do that, and if we determine to keep our heart’s and minds continually flowing out of God’s love,… His love will wreck others and they will need to know who God is, who Jesus is, who The Holy Spirit is! They will desperately NEED to know Him!
But this needs to start with us. We NEED to know Him. We need to be so desperate for Him, so in love with Him that NOTHING, NO ONE and NO HURT or OFFENSE could ever distract us from getting to KNOW HIM, The God of unconditional LOVE.
“For [if we are] in Christ Jesus, neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything, but only faith activated and expressed and working through love.” Galatians 5:6 AMP
I know how hard it can be when you have been hurt by someone. Depending on the hurt or offense, it can take weeks, months or even years to get over that pain,… whether it was intentional or not or whether it is true or not. Sometimes people lie about you and slander you. They will do everything they can to destroy your reputation in other people’s eyes, and it can be devastating!
Getting even is not the answer.
Hurting people, hurt others. I wholeheartedly believe that. When people are hurting from past pains that have never been healed, the pain grows and begins to consume a person’s mind the longer it goes without being dealt with. When a person’s heart and mind is so consumed with these wounds, all that they see and hear is through a “lens” or filter of past pain. They are usually suspicious, critical, bitter, gossiping, aggressive, slandering, and, or accusing. They always seem to be there, pointing out other’s faults, problems, or “lies”.
As Christians we cannot be like this. This will hinder the Love Of God from flowing through us, because we won’t know it ourselves!
” 8. He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for Gos is love.
9. In this the love of God was made manifest (displayed) where we are concerned: in that God sent His Son, the only begotten or unique [Son], into the world so that we might live through Him.
10. In this love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation (the atoning sacrifice) for our sins.
11. Beloved, if God loved us so [very much], we also ought to love one another.
12. No man has at any time [yet] seen God. But if we love one another, God abides (lives and remains) in us and His love (that love which is essentially His) is brought to completion (to its full maturity, runs its full course, is perfected) in us!”
13. By this we come to know (perceive, recognize, and understand) that we abide (live and remain) in Him and He in us: because He has given (imparted) to us of His [Holy] Spirit.
14. And [besides] we ourselves have seen (have deliberately and steadfastly contemplated) and bear witness that the Father has sent the Son [as the] Savior Of The world.” 1 John 4:8-14 AMP
Please also read 1 Corinthians 13:1-8, 13, 14:1.
Ok, so the question is, how do we receive a healing for mental and emotional wounds? The answer (is always) Prayer. Going to God and depending on Him for healing should always be our first and main choice. And during that time, if He leads you to a book, or to another source, then He is still being the source of your healing! It may take some time, be patient and persistent.
35. “And one of their number, a lawyer, asked Him a question to test Him.
36. Teacher, which kind of commandment is great and important (the principal kind) in the Law? [Some commandments are light- which are heavy?]
37. And He replied to him, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind (intellect).
38. This is the great (most important, principal) and first commandment.
39. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself.
40. These two commandments sum up and upon them depend all the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 22:35-40 AMP.
If I may suggest a few books that have helped me:
“The Bait Of Satan” by John Brevere (an excellent book!),
“The Supernatural Power Of Forgiveness” by Kris & Jason Vallotton (I’m currently reading this one, and it’s really good!),
“Did You Learn To Love?” By Bonnie Jones,
“Experiencing The Father’s Embrace” by Jack Frost,
“Only Love Can Make A Miracle” by Mahesh Chavada (one of my favorites besides ‘The Bait Of Satan’!)
If you feel led, look into these books. The Bait Of satan really helped me personally.
Let the healing begin. ❤️